Caring is deeply personal, and stepping back might feel like a lapse in duty. However, evidence from Carers UK highlights that carers who rest are better equipped to manage their roles. Taking time isn’t a sign of neglect—it’s a way to sustain your strength.
Consider it a fundamental part of your caring role, much like recharging a device to keep it functional. A short break—perhaps 15 minutes with a cup of tea—enhances your resilience.
Suggestion: Remind yourself, “This strengthens my ability to care.”
You don’t need lengthy escapes. Start with brief moments, such as five minutes of calm breathing or a short walk while your loved one is resting. These increments can make a significant difference. Suggestion: Use a timer to establish a clear boundary for this time.
Enlist a family member or friend to assist for a short period, or explore council-provided respite services. Others are often willing to support you—they may simply need guidance on how.
Suggestion: Ask directly, “Could you step in for an hour this Friday?”
Schedule a regular activity—such as reading, a brief outing, or watching a programme—and treat it as a fixed commitment. Consistency helps normalise taking breaks and reduces guilt over time.
Suggestion: Add it to your calendar alongside your caring tasks.
You’re human, not tireless. If guilt arises, reassure yourself: “I’m doing my utmost, and that’s sufficient.” Acknowledging your efforts can ease self-imposed pressure.
Suggestion: Write this affirmation somewhere visible as a reminder.
Unpaid carers provide invaluable support, and prioritising your own time is key to sustaining that effort. Begin with one manageable step—such as a brief pause—and consider contacting a local charity for additional resources. If you need further assistance, our Urgent Support Link service is available to offer relief.
